Fall Bucket List | 2017

I have seen other bloggers doing this and I knew I wanted in on the fun. Plus, I think it would be a fun thing to look back on and see if we actually checked everything off the list. I will blog the results of the Fall Bucket List on November 22 because lets face it, the day after Thanksgiving = Christmas!

2017 Fall Bucket List


Busch Gardens Howl-O-Scream
Pumpkin Picking
State Fair
Corn Maze
Visit Colonial Williamsburg
Football tailgate/Football Game
Decorate our porch with mums and pumpkins
Decorate house for fall
Watch Hocus Pocus
Make Caramel Apple Pops
Spontaneous Day Date
Hand out treats on Halloween




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Adoption Homestudy

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The homestudy is something that I had no clue what to expect. I knew from my research that there would be an in-home interview. However, everything I read stated that the social workers would NOT be going around giving our house a white glove lookdown. Even with the research I did on my own, I still was unsure what I was going to need to properly prepare for a homestudy because there were so many contradictions.

Some articles stated that a bedroom with a crib already set up would be required. Others stated we would need fire extinguishers, outlet covers, smoke detectors in every room, and cabinet safety mounts installed. While some of that we already have, I had no clue what to expect and it made me so nervous to start the process

Let me just say, it has been SOOOOOOOOO much easier than I thought. While there is a lot of paperwork preparation involved, I am very organized when it comes to stuff like that so it has actually been fun getting everything in place. I contacted an agency in Charlotte that specializes in homestudies and we were immediately paired with a social worker out of Wake Forest. I was provided a list of all of the documents that I needed to gather up front and was able to talk with my social worker the day after we signed our contract. Our social worker is SUPER nice and I just feel like God has guided us to the perfect agency and perfect social worker.

The homestudy will require 3 sit down meetings, two at her office and the last one will be in our home. We have our first meeting this Friday so we already have the ball rolling. For those interested, I am going to post all of the homestudy required documents below. The first thing I asked the social worker was what she was expecting to see for the in-home visit. She immediately reassured us that all she is looking for is a structurally safe home and a room for our baby. Obviously they don't want us bringing a baby home to a house that could cave in at any moment. She said some of the horror stories I had read about are more for foster care homestudies as they have stricter requirements because they could be bringing home any age child. Most couples do not child proof their entire house when bringing an infant home from the hospital so they do not expect couples adopting an infant to do that either.

I'm telling you, this has surpassed all of my expectations and I actually find myself excited about the sit down meetings with our social worker. We will be diving in to our lives growing up, how we met, the things we are involved with, how we intend to discipline our child, how we were disciplined as children, etc. If we had any past issues, those things would also be discussed. These discussions will give the social worker a glimpse of our lives so that she can write up a proposal for us as parents. One source that Craw and I found when researching adoption was a website called Fund Your Adoption. They even provide a spreadsheet where all I have to do is plug in information and finances and it does all of the math for me. It has been so incredibly helpful in keeping everything organized as well as keeping up with every dollar we spend. There is an adoption tax credit that we will be eligible for once we get our child and saving receipts and keeping up with costs is the number one requirement. I highly recommend using this website if you are thinking of adopting.

Homestudy Required Documents
Copies of Birth Certificates
Copy of Marriage Certificate
Copy of Divorce Decrees (Not Applicable)
Copy of the first two pages of most recent 1040 tax form
Pay stub or letter from employer(s) verifying employment
Medical Clearances for each member of the household
Three letters of reference from non-family members (must be signed and notarized)
Child Abuse Clearances
Federal (FBI) Criminal Clearance
State Criminal Clearance
Must disclose any criminal history (Not Applicable- exclude minor traffic violations)
Financial worksheet detailing assets and liabilities

Hopefully this will give you an idea of what we are currently working on and a little more insight in to the adoption homestudy process. If you have any specific questions, please message me as I will be more than happy to answer.
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Adoption Update: Application Approved



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The last few weeks have been busy and quite a lot has happened on the adoption front. We officially have an agency and have been approved for their infant adoption program. We submitted the application on September 6th and received an email on September 8th stating the board approved us. We weren't too worried about not being approved but getting that official email made it so surreal and Craw and I were super excited. I can't wait to share more about the agency once we get the baby but we are keeping it hush hush for now.

We also officially started the homestudy process. I was very nervous going in to the homestudy process as I had no clue where to begin but the agency we are using has been so helpful and has provided us clear directions on everything we need. I will do a post tomorrow specifically in regards to the homestudy and what it entails but I at least wanted to mention it in todays post.

Things are getting very very real for us. The homestudy should take about 8-10 weeks so we are hoping to have an approved homestudy in hand by December. Once we have an approved homestudy, we will start the matching process with our agency.


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Adoption Thoughts

"God is the Father to the Fatherless through us.  And if we are living lives that make sense to non-believers then we are doing something wrong.  Our lives are not supposed to be safe, secure, and comfortable.  When we choose to stop living for Christ, we are choosing to be unmoved by the deafening silence of an orphanage filled with children, we are choosing to allow children to sleep in DCS offices and age out of a system never knowing family, and we are making the world wonder where is the church."

This post is completely unplanned but this quote has rocked me to my core and I felt the need to write about it. When Craw and I decided to adopt, we knew that we were reaching outside of what society says is the "norm" for a young married couple. Society tends to think that the only time a couple would adopt is if they are unable to have kids. While that is true for some people, I hate that is the first thing a person thinks when they hear someone is adopting.

I have already mentioned on the blog what led Craw and I to adoption but I think this quote sums up exactly how we feel. Adoption is not something we are doing because we can't have kids. And it is not something we are doing because of my health. While my health does play a part in us needing to wait to have biological kids, it is not the reason we are adopting. 

We are adopting because it is something that God has called our family to do. We cannot sit back and claim to be "pro life" and do nothing to help these mamas that could have chosen abortion. We cannot sit back and claim to "love like Christ" and turn our backs on children that need a mama and daddy to love them for the rest of their lives. Adoption is something that scares me every day. I don't know what to expect. I'm terrified of the birth parents changing their minds after choosing us to be the parents to their baby. I'm terrified of the expense as we don't have $30,000 just chilling in our bank accounts. I'm terrified of what it may be like to raise a child that is racially different than us...not because I don't think we can do it but I can already see mama bear coming out if a person were to make a comment regarding the race of our child.

Please know that I am not saying that all Christians should adopt. I definitely believe that adoption is a calling. However, I DO believe that all Christ-loving people should be living for Christ daily. We have seen the beauty of Christ through so many people already. Our first fundraiser was a HUGE success and it was because people decided to give money to help us be obedient to God. I have people tell us all the time they pray for us daily and they are praying for our birth mama. That makes me smile with joy as people all around us are supporting us in this journey.


I'm not sure if these words even make sense but this was on my heart so I wanted to share.



 

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Baby Bolton Shopping Trip

This weekend was epic and one that has me all excited for Baby Bolton's arrival. My mom and I went on a shopping trip to Charlotte to get items for the nursery. We are still in the paper work stage but we knew that there were things we would eventually need so we wanted to go ahead and knock some of them out.
We left for Charlotte Saturday morning and were so excited to spend some time together. My mom is my best friend and although we see each other every week, its nice to get some alone time together every now and then.
Our first stop as soon as we got to Charlotte was IKEA.
I LOVE IKEA!

We knew that we would be getting majority of the items from IKEA because I had already looked online and made a list of everything I wanted. A dresser was our number one purchase. We also got a highchair, rolling cart, drawer organizers, and lots of other home goodies.

Once we left IKEA, we checked in to the hotel and relaxed before dinner. We ended up eating at Dogwood Southern Table and Bar and I'm going to be straight up honest for a second. Dinner was terrible. I'm a picky eater so nothing on the menu appeased me. I had heard some great things about it but I wasn't impressed. I also heard that the bacon jam was TO DIE FOR and it.was.terrible! I can still gag just thinking about how it smelled. If you're ever in Charlotte, please don't let me stop you from trying it but I'm just being honest when I say that I was not a fan.

After dinner, we went to SouthPark Mall and OH MY WORD, that mall is amazing! I was blown away by how big it was. We basically only made it through Belk (it's 4 stories) by the time we were ready to call it a night.

Sunday morning, we woke up and went to The Original Pancake House and we enjoyed a delicious breakfast. Afterwards, we went back to SouthPark Mall and shopped until we couldn't shop anymore.
If you know me, you know I love my Panthers and it nearly KILLED me to be in Charlotte and not go to the first home game of the season. I joked with Craw all week that I was going to find us tickets. Mom and I found a picture of BOA stadium so we took a picture and pretended we were at the game.

We ended our trip with one last stop by IKEA to pick something up for a friend. We had a great weekend and came home with some exciting new things for Baby Bolton's nursery. 


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Application: Submitted

Today was a VERY exciting day. We have officially submitted our adoption application to an agency that we hope and pray is going to be the one that helps us find our baby. That seems so surreal to say. We still have to wait for the agency to approve us but I was straight giddy today when I hit submit. The application itself was not very difficult but we took our time making sure we had everything filled out correctly. Now we wait for the approval and once we get the approval, we will make a small down payment and hopefully start the home study process.

I did want to quickly mention a couple of things about the adoption and where our hearts are with the information we plan to share and the information we prefer to keep private. I mentioned this a couple weeks ago but we do plan to keep our agency name and location private for now. The internet can be a wonderful space but it can also be cruel at times and we don't want to say or do anything that could hinder the journey to Baby Bolton.

We are excited to share this journey with all of our family, friends, and people we haven't met because it brings awareness to the beauty that is adoption. We will continue to share updates about our journey, especially once we are home study approved and officially matched to our baby. One of things that led Craw to adoption is the stories that I would share with him that I found through the blogging community. Hearing peoples firsthand experiences can really encourage someone else that may be on the fence about adoption.

I'm going to be honest...I'm usually bad at keeping secrets but I really want to keep some things a surprise. For example, once we are matched, we want to keep the due date and gender a secret. I dream about the day when we can officially announce the birth of our baby and how the element of surprise is going to be such a fun thing to share. The surprise will also help protect our hearts because at the end of the day, the birth family has the right to change their minds. I can't imagine what it would be like to announce we were on the way to get our baby only to then have to inform you that they changed their mind and we are coming home empty handed. Our family and closest friends will be aware of the travel plans but we are hoping to surprise them with the gender as well.

Please continue to pray for us on this journey. I'm a little nervous about the home study and how stressful it may be but it will bring us one step closer to our baby. 

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A Little Bit of Life Lately

Busy. The only word that can possibly describe our life lately. I feel like we have been all over the place but August was so much fun.
We had fun dressing up for Craw's cousins wedding. It was a beautiful wedding and we loved getting to spend time with family the entire weekend.
It was fun getting to catch up with these girls also.
My best friend gave birth to her THIRD baby boy in August. We love Carter James so much already and every time I hold him, I think about how we will be holding our own baby very soon. It makes me want to cry all the happy tears.
We got to attend ECU's first home game of the season this weekend. We had so much fun and are very thankful for Craw's Aunt and Uncle for gifting us the tickets. We even found Allie and Coop and got to hang with them for a few. The game itself was very ugly and lets just hope ECU can get it together before the next one.

Our Panthers play THIS SUNDAY and we are SO EXCITED for football season to finally be here. We already put our flag up and are ready for football Sundays.


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PUZZLE PIECE FUNDRAISER RECAP


On the first day of August, I announced that we were kicking off an August fundraising challenge. The plan was to see how many puzzle pieces we could get sponsored in 31 days with each piece being $25. Craw and I designed our own 250 piece puzzle and the ultimate goal was to have all 250 pieces sponsored in August.

To say I was nervous to begin this fundraiser would be the understatement of the century. You can ask all of my friends. Would we be able to get all 250 pieces sponsored? Was I setting the bar too high? Was $25 a piece too much? Was I annoying people by my social media posts? And the list goes on...

The first week was a huge success and it definitely started to calm my fears a little bit. While the goal of 250 pieces was still a long ways off, we were at least getting closer with 94 pieces sponsored the first week.

Week two was when the doubt and fear started to creep in. Six days in to the second week and we had only sold 4 pieces. I started to really question if the goal of 250 was feasible and if the success of the first week was just a fluke. And just when I started to question everything, God showed off and in ONE day, we sold 36 pieces ending week two at 134 pieces.

The third week was a little slower paced but I also took a step back from social media to enjoy a mini vacay with Craw. I also wanted to make sure I wasn't annoying everybody with my posting. We ended week three at 150 pieces which was a blessing. However, that meant that the last week and a half of August, we needed to get 100 pieces sponsored if we were going to meet or August goal.

Craw and I knew that there were many people that were waiting until the end to give. We also noticed that social media played a BIG roll in encouraging people to give. We did a live video during week four updating friends and family on where we were in the process and also updating them on our August fundraiser and all of a sudden, more people started giving.

And this is the part I know you have all been waiting for...

.......drumroll please.......

All 250 pieces have been sponsored!!!

How incredible is that? I am in awe of God and how much he loves us and how much all of the people around us love us. Craw and I both received donations from people we have never met, friends from high school that we haven't talked to SINCE high school, friends of friends of friends, and the list goes on. It's truly beautiful how much love we have received.

So...from the very bottom of our hearts, we say THANK YOU. In fact, thank you is not enough but I don't know what else to say. You have ALL helped us get one step closer to bringing home Baby Bolton and we cannot thank you enough.

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